I've just returned from that special yearly trip that all women love. Every year since she delivered my 13 year old, my gynecologist has asked how she is. Since we've adopted as well she's taken to asking first about "my daughter" and then about "the rest." I'm done correcting her. After 15 years, I'm finding a new gynecologist because this well educated woman can not wrap her mind around the concept that THEY ARE ALL MY KIDS!!!!
Let me clarify for anyone else who might be confused, adoptive parents think of all their children, whether they joined the family by birth or adoption, as their children. There is no distinction. When any of my kids are sick, I take them to the doctor. When any of my kids are hungry, I feed them. When any of my kids outgrow their shoes, I buy them new ones.
There, I feel better now!